Love of my life

I was lucky enough to meet my husband in 2011. After years of dating and not finding anyone that was long-term marriage material.I felt like giving up at times. My friends encouraged me to get back out there and start meeting new people and dating after breaking off an engagement. That was one of the hardest things I have ever done but thank goodness I did. We were  not the right fit and I do not believe in divorce. Jeff my husband actually reached out to me for a couple of months via emails and texts before we finally  made time to meet in person. When we met he was wrapping up a divorce which is hard for anyone to go through especially when you have kids. I was a true single mom raising my son on my own no dad in the picture ever. So I was definitely a package deal and I was not going to settle.I wanted to find a man of great character that shared similar interests and loved kids and family as much as me. Jeff and I had such busy schedules that we finally decided instead of waiting any longer to meet we would have him meet me and my son for lunch and a movie. This could be made or break depending on how he interacted with my son. All went well and I was very attracted to him both physically and his personality.We went on about three dates with my son before we were able to go out on our own. It was highly anticipated and we were both looking forward to some real-time to get to know each other on our own. It was summer so I got a spray tan and we were supposed to go out the next evening, But Jeff asked if we could move up the date and I warned him I was quite dark from my tan since I just got it done. He was warned but when I opened my door when he arrived he was taken back lol. Guess I was a little darker than he expected. He planned a nice dinner for us at his favorite restaurant 3rd Corner Wine and Bistro. Conversation was going great chemistry was definitely there. We took a nice romantic walk after at the local park  and a cute little duck family was waddling behind us. It went so well that he asked if he could join me and my son at the Beach the next day. I was a little nervous about that. Mainly because I did like him, and a full day outing with my son would be very telling it would either be a great experience and bring us closer or be awful and end things abruptly. Well the day went like this he picked us up we drove to Newport Beach and had a full day of fun in the sun. Made sand castles and played in the surf even saw some dolphins. After a full day of fun my son and i were covered in sand and there were no outdoor showers in sight so we looked liked a couple of bums. So my guy was  such a trooper taking us to dinner and we were still hitting it off and my son had a blast. As summer went on we did many day trips and weekends away together the three of us. We had plenty of adult dates as well. We were falling in love and we were falling fairly fast. We were moving at a snail’s pace physically both because my now husband is such a gentlemen and because we liked each other we both wanted everything to be special. Two great spots he introduced us to was June Lake, which is up just past Mammoth. As well as Newport Dunes a great RV park which is a great place to take your family. At the end of summer we were exchanging I love you’s and getting more serious. Jeff even came to Brandon’s kindergarten back to school night. We had the night to ourselves had a great dinner and we had a special weekend planned the day after to Laguna Beach. I was at my brink for holding out physically it had been over 6 months of dating so it was time to be intimate. Jeff is very romantic so I know his plan was to do it right in Laguna but I let him know that night after dinner I should spend the night. I did and it was fantastic. That sealed the deal I was sure I had found the man of my dreams. We went to Laguna the next day and it was a great trip. I laugh though I am not a big drinker and part of our first night was wine tasting and then a decadent meal. Needless to say after getting into a sexy little number I quickly felt ill and hugged the toilet  all night lol. So un romantic  I felt like medusa and felt like he was going to leave me. But I was just insecure and  he loved me and he was so sweet to me. The next day we went on a fabulous Whale watching outing and we saw a huge Grey whale and dolphins and it was absolutely  perfect. Both of us share birthdays in September so the next couple of weekends we went away. First for my birthday he took us to The Mission Inn, In riverside California. This place is incredible, We enjoyed the spa day as a couple and had a terrific streak dinner at Duane’s steakhouse which is on site. We even talked about how great this location would be to get married at. The following weekend we went to Universal Studios for his birthday trip and had so much fun. He actually had us go into Tiffany & Company to look at engagement rings. I was  on cloud 9. We were  going strong all the way through the holidays. I spent christmas eve with his family and he spent christmas day with mine. But out of no where he pulled  away he broke it off. We kept in touch but obviously by friends and family were wary of his ability to commit since he had some emotional baggage  from all the pain of his divorce. We ran into each other later in March and it looked like we were  going to get back together. But he totally backed off. I got hurt and upset and started to feel like I was done dating and just wanted to raise my son and think about love once he graduated. During that year I did end up going on dates but had no interest no one could get me to spark I was still in love with Jeff no matter how much he broke my heart. By the end of the year we went on a few dinner dates together then I found out he was having a long distance relationship with  another woman. I was devastated and I figured I needed to be honest after the New Year when he called me and I needed to tell him I still loved him and see if that meant anything to him. We had lunch I laid it all out on the table and he said he wished me well. But he was happy and in a good relationship. I later found out he broke it off with her shortly after we had our lunch. So I must have had some impact on him. But  I was content on my own and staying busy with my son and life. I ended up moving into a new house ran into him and he offered to help me move. That was sweet so I accepted his help and soon after he was wanting to date. I was  still in love but so hurt. So I was beyond weary and hesitant. After we dated about a month I had a serious talk with him and told him we should end it. Unless he knew without a doubt that I was the woman for him and that he wanted to marry me and one day be a family with my son and I . He said we were  what he wanted and he knew now more than ever. So we moved forward and just a couple of months later he took me on our first big vacation  he and I flew to Hawaii he was doing the Waikiki rough water swim over labor day 2013. Everyone expected him to propose to me on that trip. That did not happen but it was a phenomenal  trip and he bought me a beautiful necklace a Tiffany & Company. We did a Shark dive which I was very nervous about doing but it was amazing and I am so happy I did it. Just a month later he found out he needed to go up to June Lake to live to run his family business when he lost a manager. I was doing great at my job and things were great with my son and with Jeff and I. So I was wondering if this would end our union. But he asked me what I thought about him moving up there and I mentioned that, I loved our time up there and would not mind living up there. That sealed the deal for him he was so cautious about commitment since his heart was broken when his ex-wife ended there nearly 20 year marriage. He told me it was just a matter of time and he’d be proposing. We talked  about  my son finishing up his school year until June and then us joining him up there to live. He came down and spent Thanksgiving with me and took me out with his family. Then I did not see him again until close to christmas. When  New Years rolled around I knew it was going to be a monumental night. My gut told me this was the night  he was going to propose. I wore a beautiful gown my parents picked up my son and said they would keep him overnight. Jeff picked me up and was taking me to his favorite  restaurant 3rd corner wine and bistro. It was odd he took a wrong street it was possibly from nerves or to stall I will never know  for sure. But when we arrived and the hostess was leading us to our table I looked up and saw my parents my son and his whole family there. He immediately took to his knee spoke some beautiful words to me and asked for my hand in marriage. I immediately said yes and I was in such a dream like state of bliss and happiness.  We were married March, 28 2014 and it will be three years this March. I love my husband more with each passing day. I am so blessed to have my true love.

Published by 40fitmom

My Name is Jennifer .I was born and raised in California.I am the proud mother of two incredible children Brandon and Savannah.I enjoy trying new things,Outdoor adventures,new recipes, and travel, just to name a few.I hope to encourage others to try new things! I strive to learn as much as possible. I am on a journey to be my best self. Working out more drinking half my body weight in water. Meditating and journaling to find inner peace. I am working on my self esteem and have lots of goals I’m working towards. I cherish my family and friends and never take a single moment for granted.

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