Does anyone really know the trick to being married. Not getting engaged not having a wedding. No I am talking about truly being married and staying married not just through the wonderful times. The smiles the love the joy the triumphs. I am talking about being married carrying your spouse through the trenches in the difficult times of sadness loss and sickness. When you get engaged your likely to be at high point in your life when the future is bright and you’re doing well health wise doing well financially achieving goals breaking barriers feeling on top of the world. But during your marriage you will be hit with obstacles you will face sickness of you or another. You may experience death or loss of someone your extremely close with a parent or grandparent. You may even suffer the loss of a child. You will not always be healthy, you will not always be happy, you will not always be on top in your career. Knowing how to be married is knowing how to protect and love your spouse through all the curve balls life throws your way. Its knowing that every moment is a gift and to cherish it and each other. Even when you fight when you are hurt upset even when you feel destroyed by life. You hold on tighter to one another you love each other and you carry each other through the dark times. You make sure that your their support system their guiding light in the storm. Life will have many more storms than it will have calm seas. But having a strong deep true loyal bond. That can carry you through any storm and dark tunnel. I vow to be my husbands strength when he is weak. I vow to be his hope when he has none. I vow to be loving to him even when the light on our love dims. I vow to believe in our love and hold on tighter and weather every storm. For I know no matter what life throws at us we will grow closer together and we will come out on the other side stronger. Marriage is beautiful but it’s not easy its hard and there are difficult times when you feel you have been let down or let your partner down. But in those times when all the smiles laughter and love and passion seem a distant memory because of loss, sickness, stress. Be brave remember the love remember your vows remember your strength and keep moving forward fight through the storm until you are on the other side and enjoying the beautiful rainbow. I will always remind myself how much my husband and my marriage mean to me when things get tough. Sometimes it seems so tough stress, work, kids, that you just think being alone would be the answer. But remember you have everything you ever dreamed of. You just can’t expect to have it all and have no bad days everyone has good dreams and we all have nightmares if we wanted to never have a nightmare wed have to stop sleeping. It’s a risk we take just like in marriage we hope for more smiles than tears. More laughter than anger and more love than hate. But life is full of all of it. We need to look at those we love when times are tough and remember why we chose them the million reasons we love them. It’s so easy to blame so easy to criticize each other when times get tough and tempers flare. I will weather all the storms that come our way with my spouse. I love him our marriage and our family is worth it. I hope and pray everyone can always fight for the love and stay above water in even the worsts of storms and loss they endure during their life.