Today I am missing my Aunt Janne she passed away and is always in my heart. Today is her Birthday so I am still wishing her a happy Birthday in Heaven. She had so much life in her she was fun and feisty and had a great since of adventure and strength. She shares her Birthday with my cousin who I hope is having a fantastic day today! I am lucky that at least when we lost her you were still able to get together and celebrate your loved ones life. I know many people have been unable to do that since COVID-19. Hope everyone has a great day! Remember to hug the ones you love a little tighter and know you never know how soon you may lose them.
This week my son started high school via distance learning. Which is such shame but it went pretty well. My daughter doesn’t start her distance learning until next week nutty way to start kindergarten. Hoping that the kids get to have on campus learning in the near future. Been a hectic few weeks lots going on waiting for things to get back to normal. I don’t think it’s been good for kids to be stuck at home and not have social interaction. They are both great kids but they miss sports and school in person and friends and going to movies and restaurants and to do fun outings. I pray each night and day that things get better soon so everyone can have the freedom to enjoy those things once again. It’s also hard when families don’t get any time to just be on their own or with their pals. I hope everyone is doing well and hanging in there. I am really starting to struggle with making sure my family is happy. My kids and I all want to have our normal outings and social time. I do know when we get to have those simple things that we’ve lost last 6 months we will appreciate them more than we ever have.
We have had a decent month Savannah enjoyed going to camp each week she had her last day of camp today. We had hoped she would be going to school that was the plan even as of a week ago. But now we found out the Kindergarten and pre school will be doing distance learning as well. I don’t know how this is going to work for these very young children. I’m praying the kids get back to regular school very soon. We have enjoyed time in our pool and Brandon enjoyed almost two weeks in Coronado with his buddies family. I was so happy he got a break from the heat and had some time with his friend. Unfortunately it looks as if now that both kids will be doing distance learning for start of school year which is such a bummer especially since such big transition years Brandon is starting high school and Savannah is starting kinder. This is going to be hard to figure out my schedule as well since I am supposed to be online with my daughter whole time they have her doing distance learning. On the brighter side we have all been keeping busy and enjoying as much time together as we can. Seeing so many places shutdown and closed is not a good feeling. I want to see things open back up and our children have a real in person education again. I want all my friends who own businesses to be able to work again and not have their businesses shut down creating such hardships for them and all their employees. I am definitely meditating more doing my best to stay active and get my workouts in. I am doing my best to keep the faith have faith in God that things will be better soon🙏 I am finding that looking for things to be grateful for each morning and night give me peace. I have always been a positive person but I definitely work harder these days and make sure I find the joy in each day no matter the uncertainty. I have been reading a lot as well 📚. We miss my hubby and will definitely have to spend some time in June Lake soon so we can all be together. I hope that all of you have been able to find the joy and have some peace. 🙏😊😘🤗
We really enjoyed our weekend at Newport Dunes for Savannah’s 5th Birthday. We had fantastic weather and it was nice to have family time outdoors. She loved her unicorn cake 🎂. 😎🌺🎉🎁🇺🇸
Kids have been enjoying some pool time. Savannah has thankfully had some social tome
At camp last couple of weeks and loving it. Football is on hold no practices yet at all which is such a bummer for my son. Last nights DSUSD meeting was over four hours long and even though there was a vote . Seems like it’s still super far off from having a real plan for our students. Been getting back to my peloton workouts and enjoying them. Been five months since I’ve been at pure barre miss going and seeing my friends. My sweet girl turns five this Sunday and I am so bummed she’s not having a birthday party or getting a Disney trip as usual. Hopefully I can do something for her belated when things get back to normal. Our desert restaurants were fully open but now no indoor dining while we are in triple digit weather it’s only patio seating and takeout. Savannah’s school uniforms came in and I am thankful the private schools are set with a plan and keeping the kids safe and learning. Savannah did get a clothing box from stitch fix and loved it as an early birthday gift. I also took her yesterday to get a manicure and pedicure which she was so happy to get that done. I hope everyone is doing well! I feel like just when things were starting to re open and get back to normal things are no back tracking which is unfortunate. 😊🙏🏡🇺🇸🎂🌵
So happy my kids got to enjoy a little back to normal today. My daughter went to her summer camp. She did wear a mask 😷 upon arrival and for some of her day but she had so much fun being there and meeting new kids having kids around her was so great ! My son got to go get his spirit pack and we paid for camp and gear for his football 🏈 which will hopefully be starting workouts July 6. I was able to get more done today whole my little one was at camp. Had a great day until overbearing demanding bullying family member brought toxicity to my day and was callus and only concerned with themselves. It’s hard my whole 40 years I’ve been a people pleaser and it is like being a masochist and I don’t recommend it to anyone. I love seeing people happy and making people happy but some people no matter how much you do will ever appreciate it. It will never be enough. I grew up having to be the good child as my brother was the wild rebellious child and my parents also fought so much and it was rough. Dealing with that alcoholism and my mom always locking herself in her room. Yet they always wanted people to have a different perception so I was very isolated no friends allowed over always told to hide things pretend all is well. Never asked how I was doing if I needed anything by the time I was my sons age I’d be left alone for days or a week to fend for myself. Even after graduating and moving out trying to please keep everyone happy seek love from parents who only gave conditional love was exhausting and it’s brought be so much pain and heartache. To never feel fully unconditionally loved by your parents is pretty tough. I also feel pretty weak considering how bad I’ve tried and foolishly haven’t learned in 40 years that my relationship with them will always be toxic and they will never love unconditionally. I am lucky I’ve had other adult figures that I felt I could go to and felt unconditionally loved most of them I didn’t get to have the rime with until I was over 18 as I was sheltered didn’t get to talk to or see grandparents or aunt and uncle everyday not even every week or month usually just big holidays. My grandparents were truly special and I loved all of them so much. My aunt that lived close to me from my twenties until this year passed away in January and she was great too we had a very good relationship I could talk to her about anything we had a great bond I enjoyed hearing about all her life adventures as well. She also supported me and saw how much pressure I felt and how stressed I was when my parents hovered or injected themselves too much.It was even her idea when I was about to be 21 to go apply to be a flight attendant so I could get some distance from them and I did and I moved out of state. I did get calls at minimum everyday from my dad telling me how my weather sucked and his was great . I was free though even more so then when I would move two hours away to have a life of my own. I was always told that only thing that was good enough was to do what they wanted and when I did and worked for them I barely scraped by. I remember when my son was less than a year old and they were having a hard time paying me they had a friend of ours in mortgage put out feelers for interest from others for a personal assistant so I could also have medical coverage I’d been licensed in real estate at that point for ten years so had good experience. When I got a great offer paying nearly three times what I made per month with medical and a flexible schedule and I was ready to accept. I was told by my father that I’d be disowned if I accepted the job. I foolishly went the loyal route and turned it down. Which insured no one would want to take that risk again since my family owned a company and less than six months later when my father was not getting his way with something outside of work he fired me with no notice no severance nothing and there I was single mother who threw away a wonderful paying salary job with benefits for someone who treated me like a disposable non important person in their life or work. There are too many other instances like this where I wonder if I should have just cut ties. But I have always wanted my then son and now both my children to have as much family in their lives as possible. But having people that are very conditional in live very one sided and whom also are controlling by nature is so hard. Everyone has had things to work through with family members and parents are not perfect. I know I am not either. It doesn’t matter how much I love them if they don’t give love in return. If they don’t respect boundaries and especially do not respect our family and our life. I will definitely have to soul search on how much space I need but right now I feel as things stand only major family holidays and kids birthdays because I’ve set boundaries asked for respect, love appreciation and have never or rarely got it. My husband and I go out of our ways to be accessible and have the kids call and when it turns into even a call once a day is not enough multiple while we have so much going on as well as not calling before dropping by just coming in house using our code setting our alarm off it’s so frustrating. My day was great! Even though my night was toxic and hard. One thing I’ve learned is to look for the good in each moment and each day. I have a lot to be thankful for. Even with all the stress I also try not to cut parents out because even if I have scars that feel like fresh wounds from a rough child hood and adult hood With them. I have always been able to find the good memories the good times the moments that made me able to put up with so much and be hopefully that things could improve. I wish I had had a family that cared about my school and activities and encouraged me to work hard and encouraged me to take SATS and go to college but it was opposite they only wanted me to do what they did. I am so proud of my sons grades I push him to do his best so he will have so many choices and that he gets to do what he wants. I am even thrilled for him when he looks for colleges some on other side of country I want him to above all be happy and be true to himself and know I love him and support him in all he does. My youngest is very independent which I love it does make parenting challenging sometimes. But it’s truly one of the traits I live most about her. I always encourage them to call and spend time with family my parents love them and the kids enjoy the time they get. My daughter had a blast with her Aunt while up in June Lake and I am so happy they have a special bond. My nephews and niece have been so good when they are around the kids as well there is a big age difference since my kiddos are 13 and 4 and my oldest nephew is 26, then 18, my niece 17. When I was 17 and again when I was pregnant at 27 I sought out therapy both times cut short. When I was pregnant I had asked my parents as I was very anxious but second therapist brought up my childhood and my parents my dad pulled me out and refused to pay. So sad I couldn’t afford it myself so I never was able to go back. At 40 I wish I have had that luxury I envy those who are able to get to therapy and work out issues. On a brighter note my sweet girl is almost Five and it’s my goal to make her Birthday a special one. I know we won’t have a birthday party this year or Disney at least o. Her actual birthday. But if we can get away just the four of us for her birthday for a couple of days In Our RV has think she will love that. My son is growing up so fast and he is such a gentlemen I am truly so blessed to have such an amazing son. I truly have been blessed with the most wonderful children. Challenging at times oh yes but they are my greatest gifts from God and being their mother is the best job in the world. I do wish my grandparents had got to meet my daughter. They would have adored her. I am so happy my son got time with my grandparents before they passed away.i hope everyone is having a great Monday and that June was a good month for you ! 😊😂👍🏻🏈🌵😘😷